Not What But How The Key to you personal and spiritual development Mon, 01 May 2017 20:57:55 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Choose Your Thoughts Wisely Sun, 12 Mar 2017 12:15:06 +0000

The habitual response is always doing what you have always done you, and if you always do the same thing, you will always get the same results. So, it follows that if things are not changing for you, then you need to change what you are doing.

A simple truth, a simple reality, but not always understood or applied – and sometimes not easy to apply

Who you are and where you are is a combination of all the choices and decisions you have made up to now, so, If your life is not how you want it to be then the do something different. However, this is often much easier said than done as there can often be underlying reasons why we act in a “set” way.

Everything in life, including you and me, starts with a thought. So it follows that the quality of our thoughts will determine our experiences. Limiting beliefs which are frequently born out of subconscious programming from an early age, or in some cases a past life often influence our thoughts. What starts out as a very positive and worthwhile idea can soon be corrupted as the same old negative thoughts creep in from our subconscious and convince us we cannot do things. By stopping the reactive response, you regain control of your life.

Mastering the reactive response will, without a shadow of a doubt, put you in control of your life giving you the freedom to choose how to live your life because your life is a direct result of what you think about.

This habitual response shuts you down to possibilities, locking you into an old, outdated way of thinking. You are living in the past. You are making choices about the present from an often distorted viewpoint based on who you were and not who you are now.

I cannot stress enough the importance of mastering the reactive or habitual response. It is the key to opening up your potential and becoming the person you truly are. Even the aware of this is a massive step forward, and once you can apply it, then the world will open up to you.

There is a lesson in everything that happens to us, and discovering it can enable us to grow and develop. When we react habitually, we learn nothing and miss an opportunity to move on, to become more that we truly are and that is a great shame. That is how we get stuck in a rut. So, when you find yourself reacting habitually, feeling angry, scared, fearful, doubtful or any other emotional response just stop and ask the question “What is it in me that causes me to react in this way”. Then you will find the lesson; then you will grasp the key to unlocking your true potential and becoming who you truly are.

Even if you cannot do this at the time then always reflect back when you are less involved in the situation.Once you grasp the realisation and you learn to become the cause rather than the effect, you will be able to move on. You alone can do this but sometimes your habitual response gets in the way, and you may need a friendly ear or even a helping hand to encourage, inspire and you to move past whatever it is that prevents you.

You want your life to change so let’s make it happen!

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Live Your Authentic Truth Sun, 12 Mar 2017 09:46:04 +0000 Yes, YOU, believe it or not, you do have so much potential, much more than you probably think you have.

Have you unlocked this potential or are you are living a lie. A lie that you keep alive based on other people’s beliefs rather than your authentic truth.

Do you restrict yourself because of what other people tell you, or said to you in the past?

Such as:

  • You will never amount to much.
  • It’s who you are.
  • No pain no gain.
  • You are too full of yourself.
  • You are too fat.
  • You are stupid

The list could go on and on.

There is a saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me.” – How wrong that is. Words are so very powerful, and words such as those listed above can totally ruin your life – IF you let them. You always have a choice – to let them hurt you or not.

However, even though I say there is always a choice, sometimes we are unable to make it. Circumstances prevent it. We could, for example, be too young to know how to choose, or think the person making the statement, such as a parent or teacher, knows best so they must be right  or too deeply entrenched in our belief about ourselves that we cannot see the choices that lay in front of us

We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience.

Louise L. Hay

Whatever those are reasons are in the past, they lay behind you.

As for what lies before you, that should not be determined by what lays behind you, but all too often it is, and even if you were unable to make choices in the past what lies within you CAN change that. Because within you lies your full potential and you can access it by seeing through the lies of the past. Your circumstances, whatever they were or are, do not define you: they reveal you.

Once you grasp the realisation and become the cause, you can change your thoughts and change your life. In your hands lies the future, in you mind lies the key. You alone can do it, but you don’t need to do it alone. You may need a friendly ear or a helping hand, but you can do it.

Remember, the bottom line is Words are only what the say (or said).

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Open Yourself to Possibilities Sat, 12 Mar 2011 12:00:29 +0000
Is your mind open?
Open to the possibility that things could be different. Open to the possibility that there may be another way of dealing with the situation, that there may be other choices or solutions. Open to the possibility that you do have other options.

“There are none so blind as those who will not see” and if your mind is not open then you are choosing not to see.

If your response to the last sentence is “It’s not me choosing not to see, there are no choices open to me” Then I suggest you are still trapped in an automatic or reactive response because there are always options – whatever the situation. Now, I am not saying that you are consciously choosing not to see the fact there are choices, no, what I am suggesting is that you may be reacting to limiting beliefs about yourself and what you are capable of doing. Your inability to see any other way means you are blinkered and prevented from seeing the full picture. 

The world is full of possibilities; some will serve you others may not. Some will have beneficial consequences others may not, but there are choices.Some may well have implications that are too far reaching to ignore, but that is a different story the key thing is another prime understanding.

It is NOT WHAT what happens in your life that defines you BUT HOW  you choose to deal with it.

So, open your mind and be open yourself to the possibility that there is another way and then set your intention to find it because it is only by doing that will you be able to move forward.

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