You will never solve problems using the same thinking you created them with.
When you find yourself embroiled in an emotionally charged situation, it can be difficult, or even impossible, to be rational. Things just keep going round and round in your head, clouding your thinking. You may get angry, upset, or tearful which only makes things worse. Your clouded thinking makes you even more confused and if not resolved can raise your stress levels and even bring on stress-related illness.
It is at times like this when it ‘s helpful to talk and have someone share your problems, but who can you talk to? Often the people around you are too close or may even be a part of the problem. You just need a friendly, non-judgmental, and confidential ear.
In my opinion, advice is one of the worst vices, after all, how can you give valid advice without knowing all sides of the story. All too often people are there telling you what you should or shouldn’t do without any thought of the implications of the advice they give. Yes, they give you advice with the best intent. However, they base the information they provide on their beliefs, opinions and situations, not yours and therein lies the problem. It is even harder if they are friends or family too because that sometimes means they can be biased either for or against you
What you need when stuck in these emotionally charged situations is clarity: someone who can enable you to think differently, see things from a different viewpoint and get you out of the emotional whirlpool.
Can I play that part? Why not call me and ask. We will both know from our conversation if it will be right for you.
I have known Andy (but never seem him) for almost ten years and sincerely believe that without his unfailing telephone support I would not have got through the past three years.
It’s now fourteen months since I was given six months to live and I know that without Andy’s knowledge, advice, support, perseverance and patience I would not have come so far on this journey. I owe my life to him and could never express my gratitude.
It hasn’t always been easy, but he’s always there to “pick up the pieces”. If it can work for me, surely you owe it to yourself to give it a try.Leukemia diagnosed client - Southampton